What every married couple needs to know to have a healthy marriage

This is a wonderful video and really shows what the basics in a marriage boil down to.  This has really shown my husband and I what the Bible says about marriage and what we had been trying to tell each other all along but did not get it out right!
This came at the best time for us in our marriage!  God really blessed us by showing us this.  I had been almost begging God to show me what to do differently and how to honor and respect my husband because I had no idea how to do that.  This is all about the key to your spouse's heart using God's way.

Michael

      Last night I had a dream.  In the dream I saw what appeared to be a man.  His name was Michael.  He looked like a famous person in the dream.  I tried to figure out his last name, but I did not want to insult him and say Jackson, because Michael Jackson was not a good person and I knew that was not his last name.  (the man looked like Michael Jordan it turned out, I figured it out when I was awake)  But he wanted to talk to me.  He was sitting down at a table.  I sat across from him.  He told me that I had, this is not verbatim but paraphrasing, mediocre crap before and mediocre crap now and that I need to believe God for much much more!  I agreed in my mind and when I went to talk to him about it, instead of talking about what to believe for I started crying tears of appreciation for what God had done in my life, or maybe it was what God had done and I am about to receive ? that I was crying tears of appreciation for and I was actually speaking faith over them in my dream.....right on!
      I also am thinking that the figure looking similar to Michael Jordan could have been an angel Michael.  Hmm.
      I was listening to the book of Luke on cd last night, also.

Dream a week ago or so

      I had a dream a week or so ago and I wrote it down like I felt led to.  Here it is.

      There was this trailer for sale with ten acres of land.  A very old mobile home.  There was a man selling it.  He was standing originally to our left kind of grizzly with tank top on.  Brian went in and was looking at the trailer, he was in the back of it when I came in to look at it.  I went in to look.  There was then two men outside of the trailer, to the left of the door, as I looked back out of it, sitting in cheap aluminum lawn chairs.  I go in and there is this weird spider over head on the ceiling.  I think it is ready to pounce on me.  I back away from it.  I had passed it before I noticed it, so I am backing into the trailer looking towards the door I came in from.   It is black and large.  I yell for Brian that we need to go as I watch this spider transform into something docile like like a butterfly, but not a butterfly.   An insect I had never seen before.  I run out.  The men are going to think we don't want the place because the wife left the home so quickly, but I did not care.  We had to get out of there.  That was the distinct feeling.  Brian comes out after me.

Shooting Star!;)

      My husband and I saw the weather man mention a cool triangle in the night sky,  jupiter to the left of the moon and venus above it.  We decided to go outside and check it out before bedtime.  I am so glad we did!  As soon as we got out and looked up we both saw a wonderful shooting star go across the sky!  To me it was a sign from God that everything is headed in the right direction and that we will be awesome!  To keep aiming high!
      I am so glad to get that encouragement because we had had a rough time communicating this week.  We kept getting tempted to be defensive and we made a lot of wrong assumptions, we argued, were very sensitive, and we were both very easily offended the entire week!  The funny thing is that we were both afraid of the same exact things with each other.  I have learned quite a lot from this.
      For one, I really need to remember to focus on what I, or someone else, might have done to hurt my husband, when he seems upset for some reason.  I do not need to start worrying about how I will be affected. Instead I need to find out why he was affected and help if I can or just love him through it if I can not.  I do not need to be so self centered.  I pray that the Holy Spirit will remind me of this EVERY time, before I have a chance to mess up and be self centered.  I pray I will continue to pause and give God time to tell me what to do in all situations.  I know God is doing something wonderful in our marriage or the devil would not be trying to mess it up so badly lately.  Thank you God for giving us a sign when we did not have to have one....or maybe we really did and we just did not know it...God is so awesome!

I need to post right after I have a dream

      I keep putting off the posting of my dreams and then I tend to forget them.  It would be best if I wrote them down right away, when I wake up, at least, so I can post them on here later.  I feel bad about not doing that because I feel God wants me to post them.  Man, I really am tired of being so sin conscience.  I do not want to focus so much on what I do wrong.  Because then I focus so much on what others do wrong, too.  I want to focus on the right things in my life.
     My daughter did dream that she started her period.  That is something that I have dreamed about off and on throughout my menstrating life.  I would dream a couple/one or/a few days before I would start.  Then I would be ready with pads, waiting for it.  Lol.
      I had another dream with the two guys from 'Supernatural' in the dream.  It was a mildly weird one that I, at the moment, do not remember the details of.
       God led me to a verse, Jeremiah 3:15, that told me he would bring me a pastor.  That lifted me up.  I want a church home so badly.  I know it will not answer all of my problems, but it will help some.  It will give me socialization, edification, and help me to find more ministries for me to help with and hopefully give my daughter some good christian friends while she is learning about God.  I long for a 'family' here to help support my family and I.

Self centeredness

      I have been having a hard time the past few days with self-centeredness.  Especially in regards to my husband.  I do not want to be condemned.  I want to be convicted and do what is right.  This was a reoccurring issue in our marriage in the past.  I do not want it to be one in our future.
      We are going to be having our ten year wedding anniversary in a month or so.  I had wanted to have a party.  I need to socialize...lol.  But my husband would prefer to just stay home and not do anything to really celebrate at all.  I am asking God to show me what to do with this situation.  I do not want to be self centered about it.  Because he is half of the marriage, after all.  So, I need to know what God wants us to do.  I should have asked Him to begin with, chuckles.

New neighbors

A couple of weeks ago we noticed some new neighbors in a house that had been vacant for a while.  A nice family of ladies and gents.   I felt led to do something nice to welcome them to the neighborhood.  I made a blueberry loaf.  It turned out really well.   I want to make one for us sometime soon.  They were very receptive and sweet and thankful for the treat.  I pray for them and their family and their animals.  God bless them on their journeys.  

I made bread tonight, too.  I made 3 smaller loaves instead of two big loaves.  I made two small for sandwiches and one I made into a cinnamon sugar loaf.  Those make excellent french toast!  Yummy!  I rolled the dough out thinner so that when I rolled it back up with the cinnamon and sugar spread onto it, it would have more layers of cinnamon sugar goodness!  I will take a photo of that bread when I cut it open.